craving: some Mexican candy ( Tamarindo )
Salam Alikom (Peace be with you) to all my Muslim readers and Hello to all my non-muslim readers....I pray everyone had a beautiful weekend. The weekend has just ended for us.. The weekend isn't over for y'all in the west. One more extra day. Relax and spend some quality time with family and friends.
There's this special feeling while doing everything that a stay at home mom should do. Today was a busy day for me. We cleaned our three big fish tanks and basically spring cleaned. I got all my older clothes I don't wear anymore together and sent them to charity. What a great feeling.
Alhamdulilah (Thank you God)
All my friends think I am nuts, but I love, love, love cleaning. I like the way it makes me feel after wards. I don't need no maid to do what I should be doing. I love cooking for my family and love keeping our home nice, cozy and clean. I love that our daughter comes home from school and there's a nice hot meal for her to eat, and it was ME who cooked the meal, not a cook. Nothing like mama's homemade food. I like to do things "my way" and don't feel it's necessary to have another woman live inside my humble home and clean the mess we make. It's nice every once in a while getting someone to come clean our outside windows and help me with the bigger stuff. But, the more that I see the trouble some live in maids have brought family and friends, I say, "No thanks." One of my best friends, Om Abdullah, has ladies come clean her home a couple times a week. I wouldn't mind, because it's the bigger things. Not the things we clean everyday. They don't live in her home and she doesn't like that either. So, her and I are hand in hand with that. This is specifically for, non-working mom's.
Now, here's something else I wanted to talk about.
You brought them into this world and YOU should be the one to raise them and it's your responsibility to feed, change and nurture them. I can honestly understand if you don't have helping husband, seriously. But, since I've never been in this situation, I can't judge. But, me, I can't imagine someone other than my family members/close friends, changing my son. No way. Not the maids responsibility. How do you really know this person? She could have some deep problems and you would only know when something went wrong. The stories come flowing in when I am usually at my in laws house and by another reliable source. I've gasped at each and every one of the sick stories. I guess I'll never understand. *shrugs shoulders* To each his own.
About having a maid. For me it's a violation of my privacy. Letting someone else clean our bedroom? Nope, it will never happen. For me the bedroom is a private place and I can't think of someone even cleaning our mess. Just being around listening to my conversations with my husband. Even if she wouldn't be in the same room with us. She's in the same house. Basically, a stranger.
Usually this is what I hear. She's really good the first 6 months. Then she starts getting a attitude. She starts to feel comfy in the home and then other things can happen. I just wouldn't want the risk. I am totally not judging people having maids. Some people really need the help... and even if they don't need the help, it's the norm here. But, everyone knows my views on me getting a maid. Maybe someday. I doubt it. If it hasn't happened now, I don't think it would happen in the future. God only knows. You know us women, we change our minds at a drop of a pin. When I make up my mind, it usually sticks. I am pretty hard headed.
To those of you who have nannies. Be careful. For those of you who are thinking of getting nannies.. Think really hard.
are your kids not precious?
Final whisper: Don't worry about the people in your past, there's a reason they didn't make it to your future.