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Salam alykom and Hola to all my readers out there. I almost have 300 followers. Wow. I just want to say THANKS. When I write, I try to write the exact way I'm feeling from my inner self, my heart. I wish you could hear me talking, it's the exact way that I write. I don't think it's the best, but I try to get my points across the best way I can. Thanks for reading my words,thoughts and concerns about my life and about other peoples' lives. When I'm writing I'm talking to y'all. Even if a lot of entries are about me, you never know if that one entry is really about someone elses life, what they're going though. I never would of thought I would have such a big audience. I like it. I hope that everyone out there reading about my on going life has gotten a tad bit of info about what kind of person I am and what kind of person I've become in the last year. I've learned a lot in my life in the last ten years. So, on to my entry. Have a great 4th of July, my fellow Americans. And to my overseas audience, I'm sure y'all are in dream land about now. :)
When one of my friends or family asks what kind of life I lived in UAE, I say a good one. But, they're really asking, what goes on behind closed doors in a Muslim/Arab/cultured family. I immediately say, I don't wear my scarf inside, I live a normal life, I don't live in a tent. I was treated good: I acted silly, I talked on the phone to my best girl friends, danced in the kitchen while cooking, sang in the shower, watched tv, had a lot of dinner parties, went to my friends' homes, shopped until my little feet couldn't stand anymore, went out to eat with my girl friends and... ready for this? I even drove my very own SUV. I didn't ride on a camel. I did all that. I wasn't beaten or talked to badly and my in laws didn't just pop up when they wanted. We had our own villa. Everyone respected everyone there. So, yeah none of that bad stuff y'all think happened, happened. Or that y'all see on TV. I was a lot more social there than I am here in the states. Meaning, we always had to be somewhere or had guest. Be it, weddings all the time or at family events. The family life here in the States is a lot different than over there. Weekends here in the States are more quiet than the weekends there. I think everything in general is more quiet here and not such a fast pace. I'm finally getting over my culture shock at being over here in the States. It's taken a lot of time, but it's coming.
Last night my childhood best friends came over and they brought their older sister, whom I haven't seen in so many years. She laughed and said, "How'd you like it there? What's the life like?" I answered her and we started talking about the differences. It's amazing how people think that just because you're married to an Arab, you're going to be treated so badly. I've seen more men treat women bad here in this country, than in the Middle East. Remember, I'm talking about my friends, how their husbands treat them. There's a famous quote they have from, UAE. It goes like this, "Arrive in Dubai a woman. Leave there, a princess." Did I leave there a princess? Yeah, I did. I feel that my life there was amazing. I met amazing people from all over the world and then some. I did more than a lot of people I know would ever do in their life. Most of all, I feel like I learned what life is all about. I learned to respect before love. Without respect, there can never be love. That my friends is what happens behind closed doors in the Middle East. Well, at least that was my experience. I'm sure y'all have heard many scary stories. But, thank God it didn't happen in my world.